Space. What everyone needs and wants at times. It could
be physical space. Perhaps tight quarters has led to heated arguments and hurt
feelings. Living or working too close to someone has caused others to think
they have no privacy or life of their own. I know how my step kids feel.
They are with us everyone other weekend and we live in a two bedroom apt. For
awhile they were sharing a bunk bed. Granted, they are not with us 24/7. There
was no space for them to add personality to their room. It looked like a couple
of little kids lived in there. A broken green rocking chair, dusty toys with
strings of cobwebs stretching across them. Disney globes, broken and dirty. The
apartment became too crowded with stuff. An ugly painting, sport
equipment from 1990. No one felt they could even breathe.
Everyone needs emotional space. Maybe a relationship is
exhausting or becoming dull. Problems left unsolved start showing signs of
cobwebs and dust. Love's shine of lust and excitement may start to lose it's
luster. Too much time spent together or apart has caused a type of rift that
needs mending and some T.L.C. Less of "what will be" is replaced by
"what could have been." The mind wonders to a place far away and
sometimes in another lifetime. Thoughts never thought were possible start
seeping through the rift and into the lover's soul.
During these stormy and unpredictable waves of
self-doubt the need for personal space is evident. The silence on the phone
isn't a sign of trouble. The quiet dinner together doesn't mean something is
amiss. Maybe the person just needs some solitude to think and remember the
brilliant shine of love's luster. Time is needed to take out meaningless
thoughts and objects that are no longer important and that take up too much
space. Room to stretch out and catch one's breath.
Time heals all wounds both spiritually and physically.
In a blink of an eye sick person either gets better or worse. While illness
brings people together it can pull them apart. There needs to be space to rest
up and gain energy. When moral support and warmth is needed, they will let you
know. Heartache is the same way. The heart takes time to mend. Not just
heartache from love but from life's ups and downs. All people need is just a
little space.
